I turned thirty this year and have been thinking about having kids. Recently put together a list of.
- Anything worthwhile requires commitment.
- Authority figures - teachers, adults, - and the establishment aren’t always right. Think for yourself from first principles. If there’s something about how something works that doesn’t make sense to you, dig in and.
- Observe your own revealed preferences.
- Don’t pursue meta-happiness (things that you think will or should make you happy) as opposed to the things that actually make you happy.
- There will be things that you are naturally good at and things that you’re not so good at. With hard work and strategy, you can always get to a certain level of competence at the things that you’re not good at. But don’t neglect.
- There is no linear ranking of people. There are obviously rough hierarchies, but.
- Do the menial, thankless task. There’s no way to learn but by doing.
- Learn how to drive.
- The romantic partner you ultimately choose is the single most important decision you will make in your entire life. Don’t be ashamed of prioritizing that search over your career.
- Make your own money, and learn how to manage and invest it.
- Focus on earning more, not saving more.
- Become comfortable with risk. If someone mentions something at a dinner party that you think is absolutely ridiculous, you have an obligation to go look it up, dig into it, and maybe put some money in it.
- Embrace your femininity. You don’t have to think and act exactly like a man in order to succeed in the world.
- It’s ok to not be ambitious about the things that everyone else is ambitious about.
- Talk to your girlfriends about business. Guys have investing clubs
- Have guy friends, but don’t take advantage of them.
- The things (jobs, parties, people) that are highest status now won’t always be the highest status.
- Find arbitrages in
- You can have sex for any reason you want, as long as you actually want it. Don’t have sex with a guy you’re not that attracted to just because you already went home with him, or even a guy you’re attracted to but aren’t ready to sleep with, because you want to keep him.
- Corollary: don’t sleep with guys who don’t want to be serious with you.
- There will be a time in your life when not everyone will automatically care about your problems. Prepare for that time, and be kind.
- Your feelings are always true, but they are not always helpful or correct. Allow them to pass through you.
- Sometimes the anxiety and stress over something is more exhausting than doing the thing itself.
- Take care of your body. It’s the only one you’ve got.
- How you look matters, but it’s not the only thing that matters, and you have more control over it than you think.
- Having frameworks can be a helpful way of counterbalancing those emotions.